Karrine “Superhead” Steffans appeared on “The Today Show” to discuss her latest book, The Vixen Manuel. She disclosed the purpose for this manuel for younger women to learn to get and keep a man or if you single to maintain without one. The only thing I still find odd, is how can she weigh in on this topic without experiencing a wildly successful marriage or long term relationship.

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Here is an excerpt from the book:

Chapter one: Single vs. singular
So you’re a single girl. You’re Mary Tyler Moore, throwing your hat up into the air, thinking you’re gonna make it after all. Maybe you’re Laverne (or Shirley), skipping down the sidewalk, determined to make your dreams come true … doing it your way. Hell, maybe you’re even Samantha Jones, the outspoken PR maven and sexual libertine from “Sex and the City,” sleeping with every available man, and occasional woman, who crosses your path. Whatever the case, honey, you’re single, and no matter what your theme song is, it has the potential to suck.

Odds are you’re also singular, which is pretty easy to be when you’re not in a relationship. You define yourself by setting your own boundaries, doing what you want whenever you want, mistress of all you survey within your domain. There’s no one to answer to, no feelings to consider. When a relationship enters the picture, however, it has the potential to change everything, including the singular dynamic. It becomes much more difficult — at times, nearly impossible — to focus only on yourself, but that doesn’t mean you have to give up your identity. One of the primary keys to a healthy relationship is for both of you, though no longer single, to remain singular. There’s a fine line between being in a relationship and being absorbed by one, and that’s what will happen if you’re not sure of yourself as an individual first. (Read Complete Excerpt)

I give Karrine Steffans kudos for capitalizing on her past and quite possibly turning it into something positive for herself. But how many more vixen self help books can one write?

All jokes aside some of the points made in the book, which I have only read bits and pieces here and there, seem to have a positive undertone once you get past the “keep a man” text.